As soon as you are trying to be funny or dramatic, that’s when things start feeling fake and boring. – quote by Joseph Gordon-Levitt.
Having to deal with dramatic people is nothing new for me. I’ve been surrounded by these type of people all my life. It used to bother me, and I’ll admit, sometimes it still does, but not as often or as much as it used to. That’s only because I do not allow overly dramatic people and their tantrums to get to me. Both in my personal life, and work environment. It’s just not healthy, and as I’ve gotten older, I’ve realized that my own health and my peace of mind is far more important.
Here’s a few examples of some of the things I have experienced at one time or another with people that I’ve known. There was a time a family member was having a argument with her kids, and because the kids didn’t want to listen to her, she ran into the kitchen, grab a large knife, and in front of the kids, she started to cry hysterically, and threaten to stab herself in her chest if they didn’t stay home with her. Now, she didn’t do it, but why do that to your kids? To me, that’s being overly dramatic. And it’s not the first time she’s done that to them either.
At work, I’ve seen a woman throw herself onto the floor because she did not want to get up to go to her doctor’s appointment. The woman was over 80 years old. She was always doing stunts like throwing herself on the floor, pretending to be sick when she was fine, etc. This woman was used to getting her way for most of her life, and she wasn’t about to change, even though she was now living in a community with lots of other people. I was just surprised to see a woman her age acting this way. This was all her way of getting attention, but after the first dozen or so times, it got old and people weren’t giving her the attention that she wanted. That, and she was constantly calling people names and used a lot of foul language.
Which brings me to my latest dramatic dealings, dealing with someone that needs to be more important to you, than what they really are.
Now, I’d like to believe that I’m a very caring person. But, like most people, I do have my limits. I can’t be everything to everybody. I just can’t. Nor, should any one person be the center of another person’s life. Unless it’s your child, then I could understand that, but only to a degree. But there are people that “need” someone so much, that if they can’t have them or that relationship as they think it should be, then it could drive that person to be over dramatic with their words and their emotions. I call it, “playing head games”. Now, those just do not work on me. In fact, it does quite the opposite, and just makes me not want to talk to you at all. And then, I start to wonder if I’m dealing with someone that is a bit unstable. And then, I really don’t want to be bother with you. I’ve had someone start crying on the phone to me because they felt that they didn’t mean that much to me any more, and how could I be so cold towards them? Well, to be very honest, they didn’t mean that much to me any more, but not that I didn’t care about them, it’s just that I did not love them that way any more. I care, but it’s not in that romantic way. That part had died. So, from time to time, as we continue to try and be friends, we experience those stupid, dramatic fights that are getting old and tired for me. I just do not react the way they expect or want me to, and so in their eyes, I’m being a bitch. In reality, I’m just keeping things real, and they just have not accepted that things are different between us.
Some people will do the “I’m not call you, until you call me”. Which, I don’t mind at all, because then I’m almost guaranteed a few days without any type of drama. Then, there’s the ones that will send those book long emails, and vent out all their frustrations about you and the situation, and will expect a reply, but get nothing from me, which makes them even more crazed. I love it when they call you every name in the book and then tell you, “well, you made me so mad. I didn’t mean it.” Oh, yeah, sure you didn’t. And what about the ones that call you and say, “I’ve been drinking for three days now, all because I haven’t heard back from you.” Are you kidding? Please.
Being overly dramatic doesn’t work. It scares people away from you, and makes them think you are crazy. And if you keep pestering someone, then you may be a stalker. And no one likes a stalker. Try to not be that person.
So when dealing with someone that is overly dramatic, don’t give in to their games. Don’t give into their demands or petty little word games. In fact, don’t show any emotion at all. Show them that you are strong, smart, and not to be played with. And when they calm down, then, try and talk to them and let them know how you are feeling, and why you won’t tolerate this type of behavior. And if they start crying, don’t let their tears get to you because that’s just another sad attempt to pull at your heart. Remember, this person is selfish and only thinking about themselves. They don’t see what they are doing to you as being a problem. But they are the problem! Don’t forget that.
No one needs more stress in their lives. Work is stressful enough. Being in a relationship can have its ups and down. Finding some time for yourself can also be stressful, but it’s necessary. So, why allow more drama into your life, when you don’t have to? Not to mention that it’ll bring you nothing but stress and anxiety. It’s bad for your health both mentally and physically. And that’s exactly what they want to do to you! Remember, it’s not about you or your feelings, it’s all about them.
Learn to let that drama shit go.