People are funny creatures, aren’t we? One day, someone really likes talking with you, and then the next day, that same person wants nothing to do with you. Perhaps they got mad about something you said or did, and even though it wasn’t a big deal, they still treat it as if you cut off their hand or something. They get upset, and maybe don’t want to talk to you, and they give you the silence treatment, that is, until “THEY” are done being upset with you! And then they expect you to be back to normal with them, as if nothing ever happened, when they are ready to be “friends” again. HA! Think again, Becky Bitch!
So, I found some lovely quotes, about dealing with disturbing people:
- “Anger is an acid that can do more harm to the vessel in which it is stored than to anything on which it is poured.” – Mark Twain
- “We are constantly being put to the test by trying circumstances and difficult people and problems not necessarily of our own making.” – Terry Brooks
- “How people treat you is their karma; how you react is yours.” – Wayne Dyer
Now, a really friend would want to talk to you about why they got mad with you, and not just act like a two year old, and give you the silence treatment. Someone that doesn’t care about your feelings at all, and only thinks of them self, probably calls you names behind your back, or complains to everyone else about how mad they are at you. Being totally disrespectful to you on every level. They don’t want to even look at you, until they need you again. And that’s the kicker, that they need YOU, more than you need them.
The first half a dozen times that they play this little game with you, you might feel a little bad about things, and you may wonder “what did I do wrong?”. But, DO NOT blame yourself, but most likely, their reaction towards you speaks more about what’s wrong with them. Especially if what happened is very minor, but this person blows up the circumstances as if you started world war three! To an unstable person, everything that doesn’t go the way that they want it to, is a disaster. They start to panic, and all they can focus on is what’s wrong, why is life doing this to them, WHY??? This type of toxic person doesn’t care about you, or what you are going through, the only thing that matters is THEM, and THEIR problems. And a lot of the time, what they see as a big “problem”, isn’t really a problem at all.
But, the reality is, things are not that bad. It’s not a big deal. Get over yourself. You are NOT the only one.
Now, when I come across anyone that is self-centered and demanding, I don’t allow them to steal my joy. In fact, I’m probably just gonna laugh at them for being overly dramatic. I know that these people are really NOT my friend, and if it’s a family member, then I know it’s best to keep my distance and if we need to talk, then keep it short, and limit the amount of time we may have to spend together. If it’s a co-worker, then also, limit the talking to only direct sentences, and do not ever share anything personal with them.
Remember too, that someone that talks to you about other people, is probably and most likely, talking shit about you too. Don’t think for a second that you are privileged and that they aren’t talking about you. A disturbed person cannot be a true friend to anyone, they don’t really like themselves, so how are they going to like you? Learn to not trust someone that talks badly about everyone else. (as if they were so damn perfect, right?)
Toss out anyone that is toxic around you. If all they do is spread negativity, let them go! If all they do is criticize others all the time, don’t listen to them. And keep in mind, they aren’t really telling you things because they trust you or want to be your friend. They don’t want friends. They just want to spread their hate around to anyone that will listen to them. F that!
And, isn’t it nice, when toxic people stop talking to you? It’s like, life is good once more, the flowers are blooming, birds are singing, and yes, the trash has been removed. Breathe in, and then breathe out. Life can be good.